Integrity. Some throw the word around as if they have it. Some throw the word around, wearing the judge's hat, yet lie like a sailor. It gets to the point where one wonders, if we are on different planets or read the same Book. The Good Book says follow the Golden Rule. As for me, I stay away from tricking people. Tricking people is as far from the Golden Rule as it gets. In this urban jungle, nowadays, I must define the Golden Rule. The Golden Rule says do unto others as thou would have done to thyself. In other words, treat others the way you want to be treated.
It is amazing to watch others put people through stuff that they themselves would never tolerate. Calling them hypocrites to their face only fans the fires of tyranny. In spite of The Law of Come Back, or preaching truths, some continue leading an evil life, while stepping on others. Ever heard the phrase "good guys finish last?" This seems to be true when people are aiming for positions of power. The question then becomes should one put on airs of being evil just to survive an urban jungle?
Why even learn to be civil if one will simply be looked upon as a target? Why risk being treated like a sitting duck? We have all seen it. People take kindness for weakness. For instance, during an intense conversation in public or in a corporate setting, the squeaky wheel gets the oil. This is chiefly because people of integrity rarely find themselves in shouting matches at a meeting or in public in general. This author is using the example of a corporate setting to illustrate, how most people would rather be diplomatic, than lose face.
Anyone can go tit for tat. But how petty do you look? When caught off guard, it is difficult to be as slick as evil people. Rather than thinking on your feet, when someone angers you, you might shut down in an effort to be the bigger person. You might use diplomacy publicly and deal with it privately. What person wants to be part of a scandal? I am speaking of people that are so evil that they lie to your face, in your face, in front of others. Everything they learned in Christian School/Sunday School goes out the window. In other words, bold liars get their way because they bank on your diplomacy. Yes, they take advantage of your integrity.
These are times when one ask oneself, does it pay to wear your Sunday School breeding publicly? Being vulnerable can cause others to take advantage of one. So whether one believes in tricking people or not, one sometimes come off as evil just to survive the urban jungle.
How will you raise your children, in light of everything that has been said? Will you raise a fool? Will you raise a sheep? Will you raise someone who devours others? What is the most important value one can teach one's children? Think of surviving an urban jungle, where dog eat dog is the rule. Will one trample or get trampled?
One aspect we avoid talking about is how unhappy people are at work, because of this reality. Who said the world was perfect? Sure there have been paradises. But those days are long gone. The concrete jungles have taken over the garden paradises. Some people have expressed the wish that everything would be destroyed, so that we can start over. No matter which way we cut it, evil must be dealt with. Evil happens because the majority do nothing about it.
While some have learned how to deal with evil. Sometimes it can catch you by surprise, especially if it is coming from unexpected places. Preachy people who lecture about thinking positive is the last place you expect to find evil. Nowadays, one must wonder if teaching civility is even worth it.
The answer is yes. Civility should be taught. But one must also be taught how to handle conflict successfully. Now we must define success. Is success having the last word? Is success shouting louder, in order to appear fearless? Is success compromising? Is success being right, and proving it? Is success ignoring the ignorant? Some say do not stoop to their level. But by doing this, does this give them a false sense of power as a ticket to get their way?
The issue is, must we wear a mask that says "I will swallow you?" Being vulnerable has its place, but will others take advantage of our vulnerability? How should we come off - as our authentic self? - or as someone not to be messed with? Can we be our authentic self without being messed with? Everybody wears a mask. As the Fugees would say, "everybody wears the mask, but how long does it last?"
Be careful what mask you wear. You may just be wearing the beast mask. A sure sign of The Mark of The Beast is being evil. Beasts are concerned with survival. Homo Sapiens are elevated to the level of art for art's sake. They tap into that which is beautiful inside and out. In secular schools, one learns to feed the ego through individuism. But those of a higher nature capture what is important for the whole, including the very planet one lives in. Do me a favor. Soar like eagles. Ignore the ignorant. Let crabs pull down crabs.
copyright 2016, Mercedes Beato-Hawkins